Wedding experience: The ideal and the reality.

Hope you find the proposal a fun process, cause the rest of these experiences are the tough ones.

After she said yes, its timely to let your parents know about this. Of course, you could let them know way before you want to propose but most of us guys would keep it quiet, in case of ... Well you know.

And yes, after your parents know about it, you should meet up with her folks and officially ask for permission. After all, her parents have brought her up and its their faith in you they would entrust her well being.

This comes to the another question. Should you arrange a meeting between 2 families? The answer is Yes, though there is no rush on this. After all, a meeting between 2 families would be more of just a visit. Several decisions have to be made and agreed upon.

Which is why I din arrange for a meeting straight away. Instead we both discuss on what we would like our weddings to be. From this we will also include what our families wishes are likely to be. Once we more or less aligned and compromised, its when a meeting would be arranged.

I must say, this aint an easy step. Your ideal wedding may be different from hers. She may not want Stormtrooper and Jedi knight, raising their guns and lightsaber as you march in. You may not want to be in a pink tux.

From experience, I learned that its always easier to discuss about your ideal weddings even before you propose. Both parties will get an idea on what each other ones and there will be little surprises.

Your families wishes comes next. After all, its your wedding and you should have the first say of things.

Your parents may not be keen on a western menu or the lack of sharkfin or one the "sister" is actually a dude. Some of their ideas might be traditional and if you are able to make do, do give in to them. This applies to certain strong belief they have. A wedding is also a marriage of 2 families and you wont want to start off on the wrong footing here.

The troublesome part might be that the 2 families have different views on how things are to be. Being the couple, you will find yourself in a tight spot here. I am lucky not to experience this. Our families are accommodating.

What I learned is that if shit does happen, dun get yourself trapped in between. Arrange for the parents to meet up for discussion. You just have to facilitate. Its likely both parties will find areas they can compromise in. After all, our parents wont want to let any matter disrupt the wedding.

Do remember, do not shaft small matters aside. This are like gremlims which tends to feed and grow. Address them timely and openly. You be surprise by this.

80s movie

This is an interesting tee shirt design. It has 22 80s movie in it.

Instead of work, I been spending a good part with my CB on trying to guess them all. So far we only gotten a handful of answers.

Let me know if you can help. Leave a comment.

My old alarm clock

There is this peculiar habit I used to have a couple of years back. The old LED clock in my room was intentionally set 48 mins faster. Requiring some mental calculation to extract the right time.

Now I know some of my friends would set their watches/clocks to a couple of mins ahead. This as I was told, allows them to be on time for their appointments.

However this was not the case for me here.

Firstly, I used it primary to get up on time for NS and school. I need about 45 mins in the morning to get ready. So having a 48 mins faster clock, I could just set the time I want to leave the house by and leave the tedious thinking of what time to get up aside.

Secondly, I am a sleepy head in the morning. Despite several years of knowing that my clock is fast, it never fear to startle me in the morning.

I never had the need for a snooze button. Its open eye. See time in a daze. Jumped up and rush to shower. Memories of the time setting kicks in then. Curse. Swear.

That clock has been dead for a while now. Perhaps I will get a new clock when I get my new place. Can foresee my Fon Fon Ru will be jumping up along with me

Say hello Asuka

Asuka is one feisty Anime character from Evangelion. She can seriously kick butt and is still one cute chick.

Which is strangely why my next phone will be codenamed after her. (of course this keeps the tradition of having all my phones starting with 'A')



And yes my next phone has been decided. It will be the HTC Legend and due to arrive in a week time. Cant wait to meet up with you babe.

Wedding experience: The Proposal

After speaking with CB over my wedding preparation progress, I tot it would be nice to provide my experiences of myself and hopefully this will help my attached friends and family in their future preparation and planning

And to start it off, one must first propose. You cant take lightly on popping this question. Its after all a first step into your marriage.

Firstly, you need to get the right ring. As a guy stepping alone into jewelery shops, you will be greeted with plenty of female staffs eager to serve you. You will be frightened and confused.

I wont go into the details of the diamonds here. Its solely up to you to decided on the 4 Cs and your budget. What you do need is to bring your closed friends along for the searching. Those whom are married tends to give the better advise.

And of course, if you bring a female fren along, they are likely to go crazy with all the sparkly. SOO to meet and bring a variety of friends whom you can trust.

I bought a classic diamond ring with a diagonal setting. My focus was on the size as my friend had put it, its the only thing noticeable. My slight regrets after all this is that I could have gotten a heart shape cut. Something unique instead of the conventional.

Now once the rock is settled, your next step is on the proposal. You aint going to hint hint on getting a "HDB together". Trust me, dun. Its not really that funny and years down the road, you would be reminded by your wife on your "proposal".

What you should do is to come up with a romantic plan. Something fun, something public or private, something that must suit your girl character. If you are dating a shy babe, please dun do a live cam proposal at MAYDAY concert. She will run .... fast. And if she din, she would feel obligated to say yes and regret later.

From my experience, do something simple. Anything elaborated is quite likely to lead to something wrong. My balloons exploded while blowing and well I am left with 2 remaining deflated balloons during my proposal. I also gotten a bouquet ordered via the hotel over the email. Its arrangement is akin to a soccer formation. 1-2-4-8.

Now there is a good chance, they wont say yes immediately. She would be in 700th heaven and be lost for words. If you are not sure if its a go or not, the only telltale sign is that they wear the ring and wont want to part with it.

PS my yes came abt 1 week after. and after seeing this, the girls reading it may try to beat this record. Sorry guys.

That's all for now. Got to run before the army arrives.

Driver fail to bail after hitting another car

Elysee watch

This is a beauty to me as I tend to like awkward watches

But they do have some decent normal ones

Smoking machine

Yes I dun see the point of this machine. Then again, what is the point of puffing?

Contrast of meetings

As I walked by a general meeting room to top up my kettle, I was entertained by the people in it happily clapping away. It was as if they were giving appreciation to someone on a job well done.

This got me thinking of an old interesting experience I had.

Years ago.....

My scouts boy had a combined activity with a certain girl guide unit. The activity went well in my context and a joint debrief was held with the patrols leaders and the adult leaders.

What turns out here was a surprising development.

The girls started out first. The adult leader, whom was also their teacher, praised them for a job well done. She highlighted a handful of good jobs and each time the girls would clap in appreciation.

My boys then were amused by this. This clapping was so unfamiliar to them. I too find it amusing and thought that this is perhaps what is lacking. A sense of appreciation for oneself to be contributing for the bigger group.

It just then, my scout leader stepped in for his evaluation of the activity. He is no more older than me by a few years and had dedicated most of his effort and time to better our scout group.

He started firmly. Pointing out various things that he is not happy about. There issue on things that gone wary and there are questions on the scouts and guides leadership.

Its then I turned to look at my CB and he gave me the same muted look. We both know that our senior has kinda ruined the moment. It is as if the silver and bronze finalists were openly criticised for not finishing first. And it happened in the big stadium with everyone looking at them. (the female leader jaw probably dropped)

We didnt stopped him then. As a band of adult leaders, we have to look the part that we are one united in opinion. The only thing we did as a saving grace is to thank the boys and girls for organising this and hope that we could do more activities together.

I am guessing the boys were confused on the praises the girls received and the girls were fearful of the torment the boys encountered.

PS. We did tell Aung our friend on his outburst later, we know the damage has been done.

Revenge

With the recent departure of some colleagues, the ball game has changed.

My boss had the impression that the team is doing well. The players were all working hard for the sole objective.

Sad to say, there is no such thing as team here. A handful of players were pissed to be doing all the groundwork while the lazy ones get the team credit. Appreciation runs low and when bad things happened, the finger are pointed at those who did more.

So when the guys had enough and walked out of this league, the lazy ones were alarmed. They aint able to handle this level of shit without the true worker. Team credit can no longer be claimed, instead the whole situation became obvious on who was the main driver (and who is not)

Now with a big headache, my boss is snooping around other teams. He is looking to swap the better ones to balance this team dynamic once more.

Sad to say, his effort is not working. Those who knew about the situation is not keen to help out. (I know I am not)

Needless to say, the task will be throw to a new hired who has no knowledge of this. Only they would be innocent enough to be thrown to the lions.

I wished them luck.